For example a
person who in situations that might apeare as confronting to him (or
stressing / worrying / embaressing and so on) might react by slightly
lifting his shoulders, creating effort and stress in the shoulder and chest,
this reaction might repeat itself any time there is a chance of such a
"familiar" situation, even when it is not relevant (sometimes it was
relevant 20 years ago as a child). He might also reduse or change his breath
in this situation, and cause the people around him to feel this same
stressful energy and sometimes he himself will simply create the same
situation just by repeating this energy pattern in his mind and body, and
cause it to happen again and again...
with the same or with different people every time.
might discover with time, how he is creating situations of the same
"quality" (of confrontation / anger / pressure / anxiaty) just by the
automatic reaction in his body. people that meet him, sense his unaware
reaction, and haveing their own automatic patterns and reactions...
they will respond to him the way he is used to. This creates what we
normally call "Relationships"... and traps people in the same relationships
or situations even with different partners or people. people become
"victims" of their reality, unable to change it.